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22 AprBlind Dates – Meeting a Stranger

Blind dates are probably the most dreaded meetings any of us will have to deal with. Even for those who are outgoing, a blind date is enough to paralyze any of us. With a few simple tips the meeting can be much more comfortable and less unnerving.
Proper Planning
If you plan wisely you’ll be able to make the most of a blind date. Try to talk to the person you are meeting before hand, even if it’s only through email or on the phone. This will get a lot of the tension out of the way since you’ll feel as though you already somewhat know them. The date itself should be casual, don’t plan anything over the top or expensive until you know for sure the chemistry is there.
Be Yourself
Trying to impress your date is one thing, but pretending to be someone you’re not is another entirely. If you’re typically funny, let it shine. If you say what you think your date wants to hear, they will be in for a rude awakening later when you start to let your true self show.
Be Realistic
Blind dates can work out as often as they don’t. Don’t go in to the date expecting to meet your soul mate, if you are just after sex with a stranger then save yourself a lot of time and arrange a meet with someone on a swingers site. But also go in open minded. While blind dates are dreaded, you may meet your future husband or wife on one. So be open, and don’t set yourself up with a lot of preconceived notions.

13 FebGuide For Second Dates

So the first date was a success and you have a second date lined up. While you can be more relaxed, you will still be under the microscope. It’s not time to show up in sweat pants with a pizza just yet. Here’s what you should know to make the second date as successful as the first.

Where to Go

Conversation is just as important on a second date, but you can now start looking at activities where silence is okay. Some good examples would be an art film, a gallery, or a museum. Follow this up with a nice dinner where you can discuss what you saw earlier. This will open up the door for more communication and allow you to discuss more interesting things that you just shared.

A Little More Personal

While you don’t want to get too deep quite yet, you can start talking about family and your plans for the future. It’s still a good idea to avoid talk about the ex and situations which may not have been pleasant. If you have happy childhood memories, a second date is a good time to bring them up. You may be tempted to spill your heart at this point, but don’t. It’s too soon to move too fast.

Sex

It’s a personal preference, but it’s a good idea to avoid sex on the second date. You still don’t know the person very well, and you could potentially end up involved in a prolonged one night stand. A kiss is a great way to end the date on an intimate note without going too far.

25 DecFirst Impressions on Your Date Matter

When you go on a first date, you have a single chance to get a second date. A first date is like a job interview. You won’t have another chance if it doesn’t go well. Because of this, you need to understand that first impressions matter greatly when you on the dating scene.
Appearance
If you show up for a date looking like a slob, your date is going to assume that you didn’t care enough about the meeting to take the extra time to make yourself presentable. It sends a very bad message, even if unintentional. If you are going to be working and know you must show up in dingy work clothes, make sure they are aware of this before hand. It’s a much better idea to postpone the date by an hour or so to allow time to get ready. Wear neat clothing, and make sure it’s appropriate for whatever it is you have planned.
Conversation
It is best to avoid sensitive topics such as religion and politics. But you will want to be able to keep the conversation going. Hopefully you were able to talk to your date before hand and get to know a little about them. This will give you something to keep the conversation going. If this is a blind date, you won’t likely know a lot about them. This is a good opportunity to get to know the person better by asking about sports interests, taste in music, movies, etc. Long pauses and uncomfortable silences won’t go a long way when it comes to the first impression.

17 NovHow to Prepare For Your Date

Preparing for a date is very important. If you aren’t prepared you won’t be able to make a good impression. Leaving your date with a negative impression will almost always ensure you won’t be going on another one with that person. Here are the basics you should prepare yourself with.

Know Where You’re Going

If you are the one planning the date, have a very clear plan. Just winging it is never a good idea. It’s also a good idea to have a back up plan. This way if you had planned on going to a movie that ends up being sold out, you have another option without just aimlessly driving around. If you aren’t the one planning the date, it’s a good idea to know what type of events are planned. This way you don’t end up wearing a hree piece suit or cocktail dress to a night club. If your date is planning on surprising you, at least find out what kind of attire is appropriate.

Have an Exit Strategy

Even the perfect person can end up on a bad date. Having an exit plan is a good idea for everyone. Make sure you take a cell phone, and have enough money for cab fare if you didn’t drive. This way you can fake an emergency if you need to get out and not worry about how you are going to get home.

Know What to Bring

If you’ve been dating for a while, it’s a good idea to have an overnight bag tucked away in your car somewhere. That way if things get heated, you will have everything you need for an impromptu overnight stay. Make sure you have all your bases covered when you pack this.